Woman can be fickle creatures. One of the most confusing things to men is why woman let themselves go after a certain time in a serious relationship or marriage. It confused a man when she no longer shaves, plucks, primps, applies, and pretties herself up. I am here to answer that questions.
In my opinion, as a woman who has "let herself go", I believe it has to do with a few things. The number one reason I no longer actively wear make-up, and no longer do my hair, is because I am no longer searching for male attention. As a woman, we do those things in an effort to rise above the rest of the woman looking for male attention. It can be boiled down to basic animal instincts. It's like a peacock showing how pretty its feathers are so they can gain the notice of a prospective mate.
As we get into a relationship we no longer need to win the attentions of other men. We also feel secure enough in our position with our man that we actually learn to feel just as pretty without those things as we do when we have it on. This, is all your fault. I say that, because you work very hard to make your woman feel pretty. You compliment her, and build her up to the point to where she no longer feels the need to add to herself in order to be attractive to you. She knows you love her for who she is, and not what she puts on. That alone makes her feel beautiful. Therefore, her need to "look pretty" is gone when she is already pretty to you.
Some other reasons are what is commonly known as: Stay At Home Mom Syndrome. If your significant other spends the majority of her time at home, then why wouldn't she be in comfortable clothing. No one is going to judge her at home, and there is no good reason to stain her favorite shirt with baby spit-up when her comfy pants and oversized t-shirt are already stained. Comfort at home is a must when you are a stay at home mother. After scrubbing the floors there is no point in nail polish either. Sorry to say, but nail polish is for the girls who don't do dishes multiple times a day, and scrub all the many surfaces. She is lucky if she doesn't have odd shaped nails more often then not.
There is also the fact that shaving, plucking, applying, blow drying, styling, and designing is no longer worth it. The tight restrictive cloths we somehow shimmy ourselves into loose their appeal as well. When we clean, cook, tend to the children, shop, and all the many other things we do, tending to ourselves is longer worth the time and energy. Why would I spend the time making myself appear as something other then what I actually look? Why bother when my family loves me just as I am? Why make myself look different for a man who thinks I'm beautiful as I am? Why waste the time I could be spending doing any other number of numerous things?
I don't need to make myself look better in an effort to attract a man. I don't need to make myself "look beautiful" to feel beautiful. I already feel that way because of my significant other. I no longer need to do any of it, because I don't have a good enough reason to do it. That, in a nut shell, is why woman let themselves go.
Tuesday, April 21, 2015
Tuesday, February 17, 2015
Good Content Writing
If you are reading this then you are curious enough to check out my writing capabilities, or trying to improve your own. There are a few way to showcase writing abilities when writing articles for people online.
Some of these ways include but are not limited to:
-Writing lists
+ Writing lists can be tricky since most of the time people who look at online lists are known for skimming through them. It is important to grab their attention quickly, because people want to see the information that brought them there in the first place.
-Keeping readers engaged
+ This is one of the most important things when writing. No one wants an article half read before it gets boring which makes you loose a potential follower to a site, or blog. Make the content engaging, upbeat, and entertaining.
- Keep your content "short and sweet"
+ The reason for this is that most of the time people read the first two sentences of a paragraph before moving on to the next. Of that on average, viewers will look over the first three paragraphs and then decide if the material is worth finishing. At that moment they will decide if the page they are on is even right for them. This is a key point for search engine optimization.
-Search Engine Optimization (SEO)
+ The closer your article is to what they are searching, the more likely they are to read it in full. Great back links, keywords, and choosing the right headline are important. Using search engine optimization can make a website one of the top on the list when people use Google, Bing, and Yahoo search.
Understanding search engine optimization (SEO), keeping content short, having readers engaged, and lists can be very benificial when showcasing what type of work you can do for people who own websites, or blogs looking for the right writer for their specific needs.
Sunday, February 15, 2015
Freelance Writing
I recently began Freelance writing in an effort to gain a little bit of extra cash doing what I love. I must say I fell in love quickly. There are a few sites I am looking at to expand my options. I must admit there is something thrilling about getting an E-mail saying “Congratulations your article has been accepted.” As a writer you don’t get to hear that too often.
Starting Out
I began writing small $0.80 articles to test the waters. They were short and easy so I began to move up from those to bigger assignments. Now, keep in mind I do not make that much money writing these articles. Just starting out means you do not have the qualifications or experience to get paid very high.
Once your work begins to showcase you will find yourself climbing up to higher paid articles. For example a person starting out would get paid almost $1.00 for 100 words. When you move up you might get paid $2.00 for 100 words. Move further still and you could make even more. I saw a top rated article go for $40.00 for 700 words about SEO (search engine optimization). I wrote an article for same topic and got $5.00.
As you can see there is a latter of progression in freelance writing, but it doesn’t happen overnight. As a primary income I wouldn’t suggest Freelance writing until you progress enough that you make the bigger bucks.
Benefits
The benefits of Freelance writing goes further when you realize it can significantly improve your writing. Think of them as good writing exercises. When taking a creative writing class they often give you writing prompts to get you to write all kinds of things. The more you write the more you improve so why not get paid to practice your craft.
Another benefit is that it can be an added experience to put into query letters if you are a novelist just starting out. Most publishers and literary agents want to see some history of your work. Proof that your writing is good enough is a great way to start. New writers don’t have published work, and so being able to put something is better then nothing.
Websites
I can’t give a decent review on two of the sites I started on since I literally just started with them. I have yet to write an article for Odesk and iWriter. They seem like great sites I just haven’t found an article to write yet.
Textbroker is the site I fell in love with. You have 24 hours to write the article you choose. It’s great for a person like me since I have four small children and can’t always sit for 2 hours straight. With them I can choose an article and complete it during naptime then choose another and do that one at bedtime. If I can’t get to the article by naptime it’s okay too since I have 24 hours I can do it later.
Love What You Do
The first $5.00 I made I literally jumped for joy because I was getting paid to write. I couldn’t believe it. In a matter of two weeks I wrote fifty articles anywhere from 100 words to 1200 words. The best part about it is that you can choose which ones you want to write.
The fact of the matter is in life a person is happiest when they are doing what they love. If you are trying to make a living with your writing, but don’t know how then maybe Freelance writing is something to look into. It won’t make millions but some money is better then none.
Starting Out
I began writing small $0.80 articles to test the waters. They were short and easy so I began to move up from those to bigger assignments. Now, keep in mind I do not make that much money writing these articles. Just starting out means you do not have the qualifications or experience to get paid very high.
Once your work begins to showcase you will find yourself climbing up to higher paid articles. For example a person starting out would get paid almost $1.00 for 100 words. When you move up you might get paid $2.00 for 100 words. Move further still and you could make even more. I saw a top rated article go for $40.00 for 700 words about SEO (search engine optimization). I wrote an article for same topic and got $5.00.
As you can see there is a latter of progression in freelance writing, but it doesn’t happen overnight. As a primary income I wouldn’t suggest Freelance writing until you progress enough that you make the bigger bucks.
Benefits
The benefits of Freelance writing goes further when you realize it can significantly improve your writing. Think of them as good writing exercises. When taking a creative writing class they often give you writing prompts to get you to write all kinds of things. The more you write the more you improve so why not get paid to practice your craft.
Another benefit is that it can be an added experience to put into query letters if you are a novelist just starting out. Most publishers and literary agents want to see some history of your work. Proof that your writing is good enough is a great way to start. New writers don’t have published work, and so being able to put something is better then nothing.
Websites
I can’t give a decent review on two of the sites I started on since I literally just started with them. I have yet to write an article for Odesk and iWriter. They seem like great sites I just haven’t found an article to write yet.
Textbroker is the site I fell in love with. You have 24 hours to write the article you choose. It’s great for a person like me since I have four small children and can’t always sit for 2 hours straight. With them I can choose an article and complete it during naptime then choose another and do that one at bedtime. If I can’t get to the article by naptime it’s okay too since I have 24 hours I can do it later.
Love What You Do
The first $5.00 I made I literally jumped for joy because I was getting paid to write. I couldn’t believe it. In a matter of two weeks I wrote fifty articles anywhere from 100 words to 1200 words. The best part about it is that you can choose which ones you want to write.
The fact of the matter is in life a person is happiest when they are doing what they love. If you are trying to make a living with your writing, but don’t know how then maybe Freelance writing is something to look into. It won’t make millions but some money is better then none.
Thursday, January 29, 2015
I'll Always Wait For You
I can loose all possessions,
I can loose the house,
I can loose my friends,
and be as worthless as a mouse.
But all that wouldn't matter for all I want is you,
and that's why you should know I'll always wait for you.
I can have another,
I can have myself,
I can have a separate life,
or have sex with someone else.
but all that wouldn't matter for all I want is you,
and that's why you should know I'll always wait for you.
I can only be a friend,
I can only be a wife,
I can only be a mother,
and that's perfectly alright.
because THAT is all that matters for all I want is you,
and that's why you should know I'll always wait for you.
**Dedicated to my husband during his deployment**
I can loose the house,
I can loose my friends,
and be as worthless as a mouse.
But all that wouldn't matter for all I want is you,
and that's why you should know I'll always wait for you.
I can have another,
I can have myself,
I can have a separate life,
or have sex with someone else.
but all that wouldn't matter for all I want is you,
and that's why you should know I'll always wait for you.
I can only be a friend,
I can only be a wife,
I can only be a mother,
and that's perfectly alright.
because THAT is all that matters for all I want is you,
and that's why you should know I'll always wait for you.
**Dedicated to my husband during his deployment**
Friday, January 23, 2015
Wednesday, January 21, 2015
What You Could have been
“Mommy I just love to paint! Can I paint at home, and not just in school?” A beautiful seven year old girl asked her mom when she came inside from the bus stop. She had art class today, which was her favorite part of school.
“We don’t have the stuff you need to paint, and we don’t have the money to get it.” Her mother replied.
“ I’ll ask for it for Christmas and maybe Santa will get me some. Then could I?”
“ Sara darling I’m on the phone.”
Christmas came and went and to her surprise she got paints from her grandma. Her curls danced happily around her face as she jumped up in down. She waited a few days to ask her mommy if she could paint. Anytime it was busy mommy always said no to her.
“Mommy can I paint?”
“No it’s far too messy, and I don’t feel like making sure your little brothers don’t get into the paint.”
She asked at least once a week for a while, but eventually as the paint brushes sat and the colors were left unopened, the little girl stopped asking.
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“Monica I know you love to wear your tutu and dance around the house, but with my work schedule I can’t take you to a ballet class. As it is I work two jobs and ballet is expensive.” Monica’s father replied.
He did work a lot, and with the divorce his ex-wife was taking even more money he needed. He would love nothing more then to indulge every whim of his daughters, but he couldn’t see spending so much money on something she will get bored of in a few months.
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“Billy, quit destroying everything in my house to build these things! My sweeper is now garbage!”
He knew he shouldn’t have done that, but he couldn’t help it. He had all these cool ideas in his head about different things he could built.
“I’m so tired of getting yelled at I should just give up.” He muttered to himself.
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Sara sat in the lunch room with her work friends Monica and Billy. They all hated their jobs, but stayed year in and year out. Each of them regretted Mondays, and couldn’t wait till Fridays.
“I would try to search for another job, but honestly I don’t think I will be much happier anywhere else.” Sara grumbled.
“I know what you mean. It doesn’t matter where I work. A job is a job.” Billy added.
“ I wish we were like other people who had dreams in life.”
“Like a famous painter.”
“An inventor..”
“Or maybe a ballerina.”
Tuesday, January 20, 2015
Why People Do Not Know I’m A Writer
I have been writing since I was around thirteen or fourteen. At that time it was poems, or short stories about my friends. Nothing impressive enough to show anyone.
The reason why I starting writing was mostly emotions I couldn’t cope with.
My mom got into a bad accident by a drunken driver. All these emotions were running haywire inside of me, and the only way I could process them was on paper. It was the first time in life that writing had helped me. It soothed my aching heart, and by the time I was finished with something I felt better. It was as if what I felt inside moved onto the paper, stayed there unburdening me until I was almost free.
One day, I was at my great uncles house showing him a scrapbook I made. My great uncle ran across my poems as he flipped through it at the bar in his basement. He grabbed the first one I had ever wrote and then looked at his small fourteen year old great niece in almost a shock.
This is what my much younger self wrote:
What do you do when all hope is gone?
What do you do when things come undone?
What do you do when life feels unbearable?
What do you do when everything is terrible?
What do you do when your only escape is sleep?
What do you do when feelings run more then skin deep?
What do you do when no one notices good deeds?
What do you do when no one hears your pleas?
What do you do when you just feel cursed?
What do you do when things get worse?
What do you do when you think of suicide?
What do you do when you always hurt inside?
I guess the only thing to do is to give up, or suck it up. Believe that sooner or later things get better.
“This is how you feel? Why didn’t you talk to anyone about it?” He asked.
I got embarrassed when he asked if this is how I really felt. I shrugged nand asked him not to tell anyone about my poems. I didn’t want anyone to make fun of me. He never did, because no one ever knew that I liked to write.
My point in all that is that writing, for me, became a comfort. It was what got me through things, and I didn’t want people to see who I really was. Poems that have such raw emotions, no matter how good or bad they are, can make a person see right into your soul.
After I went from poems to stories I remained private. I may not have been exposing my soul as much, but I was afraid someone could take my writing away. If I was told it wasn’t good then I wouldn’t be a writer. After all, a writer who sucks at writing isn’t really a writer. I was wrong.
Writing isn’t about how good you are at it, or what others think. It isn’t about how many books you write, or how much money you make. Being a writer isn’t even about being published or unpublished (though it is a big part of it).
It’s about a story inside of you that needs to be written. Without you to write it then it would never be told. Those characters, their story, and screams for life would disappear forever.
If I never get published, and not a single person reads my work I will still be happy. The reason is because I still wrote it, and I am still a writer. I still got the comfort from the pages, and I still felt the emotions of my words. Nothing else really matters.
It is only now that I have finally realized no one can take it away, that I began to look into publication. Anyone who knows the life of query letters, publishers, and literary agents knows it’s hard to get published without previously published work.
I bought The Writers Market, and it gave me some really good tips. A blog and social media presence is important to get work noticed. The idea frightened me, and still does a little, but I made this blog and my page anyway.
Even now as I share what I write, and my heart beats wild with every new view I am still happy being hidden. I still don’t like to admit I’m a writer, and to be honest, most of my family still doesn’t know.
Why do people still not know I’m a writer?
My work should speak for itself. The world will find out eventually i'm sure of that, but let them find out from something that I write. Let them read the words, and know the meaning. Let them see my writing instead of me.
The reason why I starting writing was mostly emotions I couldn’t cope with.
My mom got into a bad accident by a drunken driver. All these emotions were running haywire inside of me, and the only way I could process them was on paper. It was the first time in life that writing had helped me. It soothed my aching heart, and by the time I was finished with something I felt better. It was as if what I felt inside moved onto the paper, stayed there unburdening me until I was almost free.
One day, I was at my great uncles house showing him a scrapbook I made. My great uncle ran across my poems as he flipped through it at the bar in his basement. He grabbed the first one I had ever wrote and then looked at his small fourteen year old great niece in almost a shock.
This is what my much younger self wrote:
What do you do when all hope is gone?
What do you do when things come undone?
What do you do when life feels unbearable?
What do you do when everything is terrible?
What do you do when your only escape is sleep?
What do you do when feelings run more then skin deep?
What do you do when no one notices good deeds?
What do you do when no one hears your pleas?
What do you do when you just feel cursed?
What do you do when things get worse?
What do you do when you think of suicide?
What do you do when you always hurt inside?
I guess the only thing to do is to give up, or suck it up. Believe that sooner or later things get better.
“This is how you feel? Why didn’t you talk to anyone about it?” He asked.
I got embarrassed when he asked if this is how I really felt. I shrugged nand asked him not to tell anyone about my poems. I didn’t want anyone to make fun of me. He never did, because no one ever knew that I liked to write.
My point in all that is that writing, for me, became a comfort. It was what got me through things, and I didn’t want people to see who I really was. Poems that have such raw emotions, no matter how good or bad they are, can make a person see right into your soul.
After I went from poems to stories I remained private. I may not have been exposing my soul as much, but I was afraid someone could take my writing away. If I was told it wasn’t good then I wouldn’t be a writer. After all, a writer who sucks at writing isn’t really a writer. I was wrong.
Writing isn’t about how good you are at it, or what others think. It isn’t about how many books you write, or how much money you make. Being a writer isn’t even about being published or unpublished (though it is a big part of it).
It’s about a story inside of you that needs to be written. Without you to write it then it would never be told. Those characters, their story, and screams for life would disappear forever.
If I never get published, and not a single person reads my work I will still be happy. The reason is because I still wrote it, and I am still a writer. I still got the comfort from the pages, and I still felt the emotions of my words. Nothing else really matters.
It is only now that I have finally realized no one can take it away, that I began to look into publication. Anyone who knows the life of query letters, publishers, and literary agents knows it’s hard to get published without previously published work.
I bought The Writers Market, and it gave me some really good tips. A blog and social media presence is important to get work noticed. The idea frightened me, and still does a little, but I made this blog and my page anyway.
Even now as I share what I write, and my heart beats wild with every new view I am still happy being hidden. I still don’t like to admit I’m a writer, and to be honest, most of my family still doesn’t know.
Why do people still not know I’m a writer?
My work should speak for itself. The world will find out eventually i'm sure of that, but let them find out from something that I write. Let them read the words, and know the meaning. Let them see my writing instead of me.
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