You Know Who You Are,
Your girlfriend works tirelessly to ensure she is the only one there for you. Your family is at a distance, your children are gone, and your so-called-friends are a serous let down. Have you ever sat there and wondered why that is? Does her voice ring in your head telling you she is the only one who cares? Do you feel as if you would be alone if you didn't have her? Is she REALLY the only one who gets you, or is that what she has made you believe?
There is a word for what she has done- Manipulation. The definition- to manipulate is to control or influence (a person, or situation) cleverly, unfairly, or unscrupulously. The definition of psychological manipulation is a type of social influence that aims to change the perception or behavior of others through underhanded, deceptive, or abusive tactics. As an overview, there are two things that primarily contributes to psychological manipulation. Concealing aggressive intentions and behavior, and knowing the vulnerabilities of a person well enough to know what tactics are most likely to be the most effective weapon against them. This is most often accomplished through carefully veiled and subtle acts that are not easily detected by the person.
Manipulators often have significant disturbances of character such as little to no conscience and sensitivity. They can be deceitful, controlling, compelling, self-conscious, paranoid, enjoys a good fight, holds grudges, and are emotionally unpredictable or numb. They can use tactics similar to playing the victim, shaming, anger, denial, diversion, confusion, evasion, gaslighting (a form of psychological abuse used to manipulation events in order to confuse, and cause a person to second guess themselves and others), lies of omission ( telling the truth but withholding parts in order for something to seem other then what it was),sexual gratification, projecting the blame, loss, and rationalization mostly coupled by guilt tripping to wind up evoking sympathy.
As I am sure you have realized that most of that sounds familiar. The type of people they tend to prey on are people who like to see the good in everyone, people who forgive others, and who give the benefit of doubt. The core reason they prefer these people are because they can easily be forgiven using the tactics above. This ensures their place with the one they want to manipulate. When there are other people who influence the person they quickly devise ways to get rid of them. They give things (children, gifts, love, security, ect.) to a person and take it away making the person believe they alone are essential to that persons happiness.
The more you think about everything the more you will see that you wouldn't of chosen the path you are on now. You wouldn't be where you are now. It explains why you are different when you are in jail, a place she can't get to manipulate your choices. Would you have forgiven anyone else for the things she has done? Who are you when she isn't around? Who are you when she is? Is there a difference? Truly think about it, and make your decision without her input.
This is your life, and no one else can live it but you.You know deep down inside what she really is. The only thing that has ever stopped you from getting rid of her was because she somehow made you feel like you needed her. As if without her you would have no one, but that not at all true. You will have your entire family back, and most importantly- freedom.
Don't let her tell you this letter is anything other then what it is. Information is all I am providing you. A true manipulator will try to discredit, or destroy this so you won't believe it. The number one thing a psychological manipulator does is convinces a person of the choice they should make without the person even knowing. Don't let her make your choice about this letter.
Tuesday, June 16, 2015
Tuesday, June 2, 2015
A Tiny Peek At My Book Dragon Wish
" No time Rose I have been here long enough. He took his claws and began to scratch the carvings on the ceiling above him. He dug for a long while without a break until they both heard a roar above them. Rose smiled and knew it was Greylin.
" Friend of yours?" He asked as he returned to his digging.
Rose felt energy return to her body. She closed her eyes as her body returned to normal. The stone carvings above them were finally broken. The dragon before her closed his eyes as well, basking in the feelings of rejuvenation. She watched as vines and roots of trees grew quickly toward the ceiling to finish crumbling the stone above them. The dragon grabbed Rose with his claws and held her to his belly. He left through the hole in the ceiling, and she watched as walls collapsed around them. He roared as he burst through the top of the building and began to fly higher in the sky.
The whiplash from the dragons quick take-off made Rose want to vomit, but she held it in. This was nothing like the ride she took on her blue dragon. This was more frightening, and so she held onto his claws for dear life as he rose farther in the sky.
" I believe this belongs to you blue dragon." He roared capturing Greylins attention. " Be gentle friend, the humans injured her."
He extended Rose out before him, a clear indication for Greylin to take her. Dragons can be very territorial with what they believe to be theirs. If anyone's, Rose was Greylin's. The two dragons stared for a moment, which only upset Rose more. If she slipped out of his grip, instant death for her and the unborn child would follow. She braced a foot on the bottom claw, and tried to find something more stable for her hands to grasp. His grasp was the only thing Rose had around her. It was the first time she truely felt like a small being. These two huge dragons could fit her in the palm of their hands.
Well, more like their sharp, scaly claws, she thought.
She looked down and saw a large drop underneath her feet. She glaced at Greylin pleading him to get her out of this dragons grasp. His eyes met hers, and he instantly knew what she wanted, and so he took her immediately to fly away. The air was so cold she could almost see her breathe. They landed on the outside of the wall, and Greylin shifted to his human form.
He ran up to her and picked her up. His arms, normally so comforting, squeezed her back causing pain to pulsate throughout her. She wailed in pain making Greylin instantly release her. He turned her around to see what caused her such pain. His face froze as instant rage coursed through him. Someone hurt what was his. The woman he swore to protect. She was bleeding through her cloths in almost perfect lines across her back. She was whipped repeatedly, and he knew someone would pay for what they did.
" Friend of yours?" He asked as he returned to his digging.
Rose felt energy return to her body. She closed her eyes as her body returned to normal. The stone carvings above them were finally broken. The dragon before her closed his eyes as well, basking in the feelings of rejuvenation. She watched as vines and roots of trees grew quickly toward the ceiling to finish crumbling the stone above them. The dragon grabbed Rose with his claws and held her to his belly. He left through the hole in the ceiling, and she watched as walls collapsed around them. He roared as he burst through the top of the building and began to fly higher in the sky.
The whiplash from the dragons quick take-off made Rose want to vomit, but she held it in. This was nothing like the ride she took on her blue dragon. This was more frightening, and so she held onto his claws for dear life as he rose farther in the sky.
" I believe this belongs to you blue dragon." He roared capturing Greylins attention. " Be gentle friend, the humans injured her."
He extended Rose out before him, a clear indication for Greylin to take her. Dragons can be very territorial with what they believe to be theirs. If anyone's, Rose was Greylin's. The two dragons stared for a moment, which only upset Rose more. If she slipped out of his grip, instant death for her and the unborn child would follow. She braced a foot on the bottom claw, and tried to find something more stable for her hands to grasp. His grasp was the only thing Rose had around her. It was the first time she truely felt like a small being. These two huge dragons could fit her in the palm of their hands.
Well, more like their sharp, scaly claws, she thought.
She looked down and saw a large drop underneath her feet. She glaced at Greylin pleading him to get her out of this dragons grasp. His eyes met hers, and he instantly knew what she wanted, and so he took her immediately to fly away. The air was so cold she could almost see her breathe. They landed on the outside of the wall, and Greylin shifted to his human form.
He ran up to her and picked her up. His arms, normally so comforting, squeezed her back causing pain to pulsate throughout her. She wailed in pain making Greylin instantly release her. He turned her around to see what caused her such pain. His face froze as instant rage coursed through him. Someone hurt what was his. The woman he swore to protect. She was bleeding through her cloths in almost perfect lines across her back. She was whipped repeatedly, and he knew someone would pay for what they did.
Tuesday, April 21, 2015
Why do woman "Let Themselves Go"
Woman can be fickle creatures. One of the most confusing things to men is why woman let themselves go after a certain time in a serious relationship or marriage. It confused a man when she no longer shaves, plucks, primps, applies, and pretties herself up. I am here to answer that questions.
In my opinion, as a woman who has "let herself go", I believe it has to do with a few things. The number one reason I no longer actively wear make-up, and no longer do my hair, is because I am no longer searching for male attention. As a woman, we do those things in an effort to rise above the rest of the woman looking for male attention. It can be boiled down to basic animal instincts. It's like a peacock showing how pretty its feathers are so they can gain the notice of a prospective mate.
As we get into a relationship we no longer need to win the attentions of other men. We also feel secure enough in our position with our man that we actually learn to feel just as pretty without those things as we do when we have it on. This, is all your fault. I say that, because you work very hard to make your woman feel pretty. You compliment her, and build her up to the point to where she no longer feels the need to add to herself in order to be attractive to you. She knows you love her for who she is, and not what she puts on. That alone makes her feel beautiful. Therefore, her need to "look pretty" is gone when she is already pretty to you.
Some other reasons are what is commonly known as: Stay At Home Mom Syndrome. If your significant other spends the majority of her time at home, then why wouldn't she be in comfortable clothing. No one is going to judge her at home, and there is no good reason to stain her favorite shirt with baby spit-up when her comfy pants and oversized t-shirt are already stained. Comfort at home is a must when you are a stay at home mother. After scrubbing the floors there is no point in nail polish either. Sorry to say, but nail polish is for the girls who don't do dishes multiple times a day, and scrub all the many surfaces. She is lucky if she doesn't have odd shaped nails more often then not.
There is also the fact that shaving, plucking, applying, blow drying, styling, and designing is no longer worth it. The tight restrictive cloths we somehow shimmy ourselves into loose their appeal as well. When we clean, cook, tend to the children, shop, and all the many other things we do, tending to ourselves is longer worth the time and energy. Why would I spend the time making myself appear as something other then what I actually look? Why bother when my family loves me just as I am? Why make myself look different for a man who thinks I'm beautiful as I am? Why waste the time I could be spending doing any other number of numerous things?
I don't need to make myself look better in an effort to attract a man. I don't need to make myself "look beautiful" to feel beautiful. I already feel that way because of my significant other. I no longer need to do any of it, because I don't have a good enough reason to do it. That, in a nut shell, is why woman let themselves go.
In my opinion, as a woman who has "let herself go", I believe it has to do with a few things. The number one reason I no longer actively wear make-up, and no longer do my hair, is because I am no longer searching for male attention. As a woman, we do those things in an effort to rise above the rest of the woman looking for male attention. It can be boiled down to basic animal instincts. It's like a peacock showing how pretty its feathers are so they can gain the notice of a prospective mate.
As we get into a relationship we no longer need to win the attentions of other men. We also feel secure enough in our position with our man that we actually learn to feel just as pretty without those things as we do when we have it on. This, is all your fault. I say that, because you work very hard to make your woman feel pretty. You compliment her, and build her up to the point to where she no longer feels the need to add to herself in order to be attractive to you. She knows you love her for who she is, and not what she puts on. That alone makes her feel beautiful. Therefore, her need to "look pretty" is gone when she is already pretty to you.
Some other reasons are what is commonly known as: Stay At Home Mom Syndrome. If your significant other spends the majority of her time at home, then why wouldn't she be in comfortable clothing. No one is going to judge her at home, and there is no good reason to stain her favorite shirt with baby spit-up when her comfy pants and oversized t-shirt are already stained. Comfort at home is a must when you are a stay at home mother. After scrubbing the floors there is no point in nail polish either. Sorry to say, but nail polish is for the girls who don't do dishes multiple times a day, and scrub all the many surfaces. She is lucky if she doesn't have odd shaped nails more often then not.
There is also the fact that shaving, plucking, applying, blow drying, styling, and designing is no longer worth it. The tight restrictive cloths we somehow shimmy ourselves into loose their appeal as well. When we clean, cook, tend to the children, shop, and all the many other things we do, tending to ourselves is longer worth the time and energy. Why would I spend the time making myself appear as something other then what I actually look? Why bother when my family loves me just as I am? Why make myself look different for a man who thinks I'm beautiful as I am? Why waste the time I could be spending doing any other number of numerous things?
I don't need to make myself look better in an effort to attract a man. I don't need to make myself "look beautiful" to feel beautiful. I already feel that way because of my significant other. I no longer need to do any of it, because I don't have a good enough reason to do it. That, in a nut shell, is why woman let themselves go.
Tuesday, February 17, 2015
Good Content Writing
If you are reading this then you are curious enough to check out my writing capabilities, or trying to improve your own. There are a few way to showcase writing abilities when writing articles for people online.
Some of these ways include but are not limited to:
-Writing lists
+ Writing lists can be tricky since most of the time people who look at online lists are known for skimming through them. It is important to grab their attention quickly, because people want to see the information that brought them there in the first place.
-Keeping readers engaged
+ This is one of the most important things when writing. No one wants an article half read before it gets boring which makes you loose a potential follower to a site, or blog. Make the content engaging, upbeat, and entertaining.
- Keep your content "short and sweet"
+ The reason for this is that most of the time people read the first two sentences of a paragraph before moving on to the next. Of that on average, viewers will look over the first three paragraphs and then decide if the material is worth finishing. At that moment they will decide if the page they are on is even right for them. This is a key point for search engine optimization.
-Search Engine Optimization (SEO)
+ The closer your article is to what they are searching, the more likely they are to read it in full. Great back links, keywords, and choosing the right headline are important. Using search engine optimization can make a website one of the top on the list when people use Google, Bing, and Yahoo search.
Understanding search engine optimization (SEO), keeping content short, having readers engaged, and lists can be very benificial when showcasing what type of work you can do for people who own websites, or blogs looking for the right writer for their specific needs.
Sunday, February 15, 2015
Freelance Writing
I recently began Freelance writing in an effort to gain a little bit of extra cash doing what I love. I must say I fell in love quickly. There are a few sites I am looking at to expand my options. I must admit there is something thrilling about getting an E-mail saying “Congratulations your article has been accepted.” As a writer you don’t get to hear that too often.
Starting Out
I began writing small $0.80 articles to test the waters. They were short and easy so I began to move up from those to bigger assignments. Now, keep in mind I do not make that much money writing these articles. Just starting out means you do not have the qualifications or experience to get paid very high.
Once your work begins to showcase you will find yourself climbing up to higher paid articles. For example a person starting out would get paid almost $1.00 for 100 words. When you move up you might get paid $2.00 for 100 words. Move further still and you could make even more. I saw a top rated article go for $40.00 for 700 words about SEO (search engine optimization). I wrote an article for same topic and got $5.00.
As you can see there is a latter of progression in freelance writing, but it doesn’t happen overnight. As a primary income I wouldn’t suggest Freelance writing until you progress enough that you make the bigger bucks.
Benefits
The benefits of Freelance writing goes further when you realize it can significantly improve your writing. Think of them as good writing exercises. When taking a creative writing class they often give you writing prompts to get you to write all kinds of things. The more you write the more you improve so why not get paid to practice your craft.
Another benefit is that it can be an added experience to put into query letters if you are a novelist just starting out. Most publishers and literary agents want to see some history of your work. Proof that your writing is good enough is a great way to start. New writers don’t have published work, and so being able to put something is better then nothing.
Websites
I can’t give a decent review on two of the sites I started on since I literally just started with them. I have yet to write an article for Odesk and iWriter. They seem like great sites I just haven’t found an article to write yet.
Textbroker is the site I fell in love with. You have 24 hours to write the article you choose. It’s great for a person like me since I have four small children and can’t always sit for 2 hours straight. With them I can choose an article and complete it during naptime then choose another and do that one at bedtime. If I can’t get to the article by naptime it’s okay too since I have 24 hours I can do it later.
Love What You Do
The first $5.00 I made I literally jumped for joy because I was getting paid to write. I couldn’t believe it. In a matter of two weeks I wrote fifty articles anywhere from 100 words to 1200 words. The best part about it is that you can choose which ones you want to write.
The fact of the matter is in life a person is happiest when they are doing what they love. If you are trying to make a living with your writing, but don’t know how then maybe Freelance writing is something to look into. It won’t make millions but some money is better then none.
Starting Out
I began writing small $0.80 articles to test the waters. They were short and easy so I began to move up from those to bigger assignments. Now, keep in mind I do not make that much money writing these articles. Just starting out means you do not have the qualifications or experience to get paid very high.
Once your work begins to showcase you will find yourself climbing up to higher paid articles. For example a person starting out would get paid almost $1.00 for 100 words. When you move up you might get paid $2.00 for 100 words. Move further still and you could make even more. I saw a top rated article go for $40.00 for 700 words about SEO (search engine optimization). I wrote an article for same topic and got $5.00.
As you can see there is a latter of progression in freelance writing, but it doesn’t happen overnight. As a primary income I wouldn’t suggest Freelance writing until you progress enough that you make the bigger bucks.
Benefits
The benefits of Freelance writing goes further when you realize it can significantly improve your writing. Think of them as good writing exercises. When taking a creative writing class they often give you writing prompts to get you to write all kinds of things. The more you write the more you improve so why not get paid to practice your craft.
Another benefit is that it can be an added experience to put into query letters if you are a novelist just starting out. Most publishers and literary agents want to see some history of your work. Proof that your writing is good enough is a great way to start. New writers don’t have published work, and so being able to put something is better then nothing.
Websites
I can’t give a decent review on two of the sites I started on since I literally just started with them. I have yet to write an article for Odesk and iWriter. They seem like great sites I just haven’t found an article to write yet.
Textbroker is the site I fell in love with. You have 24 hours to write the article you choose. It’s great for a person like me since I have four small children and can’t always sit for 2 hours straight. With them I can choose an article and complete it during naptime then choose another and do that one at bedtime. If I can’t get to the article by naptime it’s okay too since I have 24 hours I can do it later.
Love What You Do
The first $5.00 I made I literally jumped for joy because I was getting paid to write. I couldn’t believe it. In a matter of two weeks I wrote fifty articles anywhere from 100 words to 1200 words. The best part about it is that you can choose which ones you want to write.
The fact of the matter is in life a person is happiest when they are doing what they love. If you are trying to make a living with your writing, but don’t know how then maybe Freelance writing is something to look into. It won’t make millions but some money is better then none.
Thursday, January 29, 2015
I'll Always Wait For You
I can loose all possessions,
I can loose the house,
I can loose my friends,
and be as worthless as a mouse.
But all that wouldn't matter for all I want is you,
and that's why you should know I'll always wait for you.
I can have another,
I can have myself,
I can have a separate life,
or have sex with someone else.
but all that wouldn't matter for all I want is you,
and that's why you should know I'll always wait for you.
I can only be a friend,
I can only be a wife,
I can only be a mother,
and that's perfectly alright.
because THAT is all that matters for all I want is you,
and that's why you should know I'll always wait for you.
**Dedicated to my husband during his deployment**
I can loose the house,
I can loose my friends,
and be as worthless as a mouse.
But all that wouldn't matter for all I want is you,
and that's why you should know I'll always wait for you.
I can have another,
I can have myself,
I can have a separate life,
or have sex with someone else.
but all that wouldn't matter for all I want is you,
and that's why you should know I'll always wait for you.
I can only be a friend,
I can only be a wife,
I can only be a mother,
and that's perfectly alright.
because THAT is all that matters for all I want is you,
and that's why you should know I'll always wait for you.
**Dedicated to my husband during his deployment**
Friday, January 23, 2015
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